The Naked Truth

The Naked Truth Day One-Moving Weekend

Chasing our dreams

Two months ago, I decided for my 33rd birthday that I wanted to give myself the gift of fitness and finance. I want my body and my bank account to be healthier and stronger. So, this last weekend, I moved in with roommates, abandoning my Uptown apartment for a simpler, leaner existence. I am excited and terrified by this adventure.


When I started this journey, I didn’t realize how much pain I would experience in this process. I recognize that what I am feeling is a hit on my ego. That I am taking a lateral step in my life to course correct where I am, with where I want to go.  Initially, I worried about the freedom that I was sacrificing when I chose to live with roommates, and what people thought. I am quickly realizing what a smart move this has been. For one, my roommates are amazing and I feel that I am going to learn a lot from them and this experience.

The goals: 

Big Chunk of student loans paid off.

Down payment for my very own home.


If you’ve read my other blogs you know that  I have been working on my weight loss journey for quite sometime. With my changes in my living situation. I want to take full advantage of the opportunity to become the fittest I have ever been in my life. This is the year to lose that spare tire and be the lean mean fat burning machine that I know I can be. I have committed to running in a 10-mile race this fall and I have a four legged friend that is willing and ready to be my running buddy.

The Goals:

Lose 8 inches around my waist

Current Status: 44 inches. down 4 inches and 22.5 lbs.

Stay tuned for progress updates and the lessons I am learning along the way.



Getting Hooked on Fashion with Jefe

Someone gave me the greatest compliment, that I prompted me to write this blog. She told me that she channeled her inner Jefe while she was going through her closet. She said, if she didn’t feel great in it she boxed it up.

My mantra: “If you don’t feel great in what you are wearing, you’ll never wear it.”

I want to feel great in what I am wearing. I have lived by my mantra for all of my adult life. I find joy in dressing well—it is in looking my best that I feel like I am bringing forth the best version of myself. There are some lessons/style tips I have embraced in my life and value to my core.



  1. Most importantly, a good, solid cologne will never let you down. I have been a loyal and proud user of Yves Saint Laurent’s L’Homme. I have worn this cologne since I graduated college and it has loyally served me well all these years. Helpful Tip: One spritz is ALL you need. Cologne is meant to compliment you, not be a distraction.
  2. Blue jacket. One of my favorite pieces to wear with jeans or dress pants, it’s easy to dress up with a sweater and an oxford, or dress down with a t-shirt and sneakers.
  3. Shoes can make or break an outfit. I am a sucker for a good pair of shoes. You will most likely find me wearing a pair of loafers, often matched with a pair of jeans.
  4. Well Fitted Jeans. I have worn many styles of jeans, from carpenter to boot cut, but since I have hit my 30’s, I believe in well-tailored jeans that complements the right assets.
  5. Own a well-tailored suit. I was recently challenged that men don’t need to own a suit. That they don’t serve a purpose anymore. I disagree. I think that a man who wears a suit commands respect. Not to mention, ladies like to see a guy dressed to impress. I recommend a basic black suit if you’re just starting out, avoid a pattern to start, this allows your suit to be versatile from formal occasions to wearing the jacket with jeans.



It Starts With a Choice

This past Monday, I came across a photo of myself from 2012. It was a picture of me at my peak weight, almost 300 pounds. It still blows my mind when I look at that photo. I hardly know that person anymore. Let’s be clear, I am not this lean adonis of man (YET), but I am much smaller than I used to be. Over the past two days I have been thinking a lot about “the old Jeffrey.” There is one clear decision that I am glad I acted on. Hiring a trainer.

When it came right down to it. I hated going to the gym, I didn’t feel comfortable in the gym, I felt as though I didn’t belong, that the gym I was going to was exclusive to fit people and folks who knew what they were doing.

It wasn’t until I decided to take action and hire a trainer that I was more motivated to go to the gym.

When I started training with Jared, things began to change for me. I became more confident. I felt like I belonged at the gym, I had a goal and I was learning my way around the gym. Jared helped me face my fear of my own insecurity and push past it. These choices were some of the best decisions I have ever made in my life. I am grateful that I decided to own my life.

This blog post is dedicated to all of us who are terrified of the judgement or rejection that we experience when we go to the gym. We fill our minds with garbage that we don’t belong there, or the work is too hard. That’s bullshit. I can say that, because those are phrases that still fill  my mind, but I push past it. No one has the right, not even me, to diminish my dreams or my goals to become the person I want to be.

My greatest admiration is not for the folks who look like they have lived in a gym since childhood. I admire the average guy/gal who is there sweating, putting in the work, not knowing the outcome. I respect them, because I get them. I have NEVER had a six pack. I don’t know what it’s gonna feel like when I have a six pack, but I know I am willing to drive towards it.

I am sure many can relate, but these are things I do know: I know what it feels like to eat a whole pizza, gorge on cake, cookies, drink booze, soda, you name it. That’s how I got to 300 pounds. These are the toughest habits to break. It’s easy to revert to old trusted habits and find solace in front of the t.v. with a bag of Doritos, but for me, these all lead to regret. I don’t do regrets–they annoy me.

These days, I am not finding comfort in food. I am training for me. I like how I feel AFTER I step off the stair-master, AFTER I have done 10 pull-ups on my own, or finished 7 sets of 10 push-ups. Yeah, during those exercises I hate my life. The pain sucks, but it’s worth it. I am doing things I’ve never done before.

I want to leave you with a few words of wisdom. No one can ease your anxieties about the gym. Jared gave me the tools to help make me better, but it was me, who kept going back. I want to encourage you, if you want to see a change in your life. Make it happen. You will be so glad you did. We all have a choice, to stay where we are, or to do something different. Doing something different is terrifying, but if I wouldn’t have taken the risk…I would still be 300 pounds.

It’s Time to get to Work

Wrestling is a large part of my family. My uncles and brothers have all wrestled and now my youngest brother has followed in the family tradition. I have spent a large part of my childhood going to my younger brother’s wrestling tournaments and now as an adult, I am going to my baby brother’s. Even though it is a huge part of my family, I am not the biggest fan of wrestling.

I have learned enouWrestlersgh of the practice to understand that a large part of the game is strategy and to discover your competition’s weaknesses. This last tournament I had a different perspective of the game, and have a whole different level of respect for these athletes.

I was alert to what was going on and off the mat. While I was watching each match, I watched the intense focus that each wrestler had before they took their position on the mat, pacing back and forth, jamming with their headphones on, preparing for the match. I was amazed as these wrestlers worked through each match, with microseconds to react or make a decision.

I saw a lot of similarities in the way we live our lives and try to “wrestle” with life. Every single human on this planet is “wrestling” with something. From weight, finances, confidence, to issues about love or addiction, just to name a few. We may have more time to come to a decision, but in the end we have to make and own the decisions that we make.

We are all trying (period). Life doesn’t give us a play book or an owner’s manual (It would be nice if it would though).

Weight continues to be the struggle that I wrestle with. I am nowhere near where I used to be, but I am definitely not where I want to be. Right now, I am 240 pounds, 25 pounds heavier tJeffrey shoulder presshan I was at my peak performance and where I felt like I was crushing it. I am not going to make any excuses, and my competition is the lesser version of myself. His weaknesses are comfort food. I have made poor food choices, choices that I know detract from my goal, but in the moment give me a false feeling of gratification.

The true gratification I need to constantly remind myself, is when I am eating, running and working out the way I need to. I want that version of myself back. I want and know that I can crush it again. The badass version of myself is coming back and in a BIG way!

At my brother’s wrestling tournament, I heard the best piece of advice I have ever heard, “it’s time to go to work.” Well, you know what, he was damn right, “Let’s get to work!”

I would love to hear from you and hear how you are crushing it!

Welcome to the new and improved

Hi Everyone and welcome to my new website I am so excited to have this up and running and a place where I can share my journey, goals, and maybe a little advice from my experiences. After what has seemed to be a crazy few months, I am slowly, but surely getting my footing. A move to a new city, new job, and trying to navigate my way around Minneapolis has kept me on my toes.

Running and training season are in full swing. The goal is to have a summer of races. I am so excited to be running around Lake Calhoun. I LOVE being by the water. Running has become a highlight of my day for me. It is my safe place where I can escape from the world and get lost in my thoughts and ideas.


Which brings me to my blog. I am glad to be blogging again about my journey. If many of you remember my first running experience in Sioux Falls. A faceless stranger during the race encouraged me when I was beginning to lose hope and ran with me the remainder of the race. To this day, I still don’t know who he was, but he has had a lasting impact on me. I never thought that I would finish that race, but I did. I went on to run in many more. If my blog has a positive impact on anyone’s life. Then it has done its job. I believe that we have greatness within us. How are we going to set it free?


My goal to is to find that out. I am searching and trying to become the best version of myself. It seems to be  a constant journey.  This blog and website are my commitment to myself and my readers to stay on course to become the best me I can.